“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” —I Corinthians 13:4-8a (NIV)
Broken relationships - wrecked marriages seem to have now become the order of the day.
Dating relationships of 3 years, 7 years, 10 years now end so suddenly. New marriages are now lasting months at times. Seasoned marriages of 10 years, 15 years etc are ending in much HURT. Hurt to one member of the couple. Hurt to the children. I am certainly not telling you what I think - I'm telling you how I felt.
The fact and reality is though - We Can Avoid the HURT of love quite early in any relationship. Be it intimate or friendly. The Apostle Paul outlines some characteristics that should be found in ALL relationships.
I am sometimes called upon to encourage both young men and young women who leave broken relationships in shambles or in a state of deep depression.
During counseling sessions, as I get folks to talk and let out, I usually ask the question. Didn't you notice his/her ways before? Many of the tearful responses are, "I thought he/she would change."
Friend - No Way. We must always NOTE the RED FLAGS and BEWARE.
A few years ago, our ministry started a LOVE BASED empowerment program called LOVE SHOULD LAST. In that program, we encourage participants to constantly assess their non-marital relationships and ask.
Do you see patience, kindness, protection, trust, perseverance, hope and love in your current relationship? If not - Note this RED FLAG and RUN. The probability of change is very low - especially if you constantly talk about the LACK of these attributes very often as a duo.
There is nothing wrong with moving on. If you can't find such simple and important characteristics in someone you want to spend the rest of your life with - RUN.
If you have a 'friend' on the job or in your community that keeps disappointing and hurting you - RUN. Sometimes to get away - you have to remove yourself from the situation and START AGAIN!
David had to run from King Saul. If he didn't RUN - he would be a dead person. Do you want to end up crazy? Depressed? Angry?
David’s leap out of his relationship with Saul ultimately led to his Success later in his life.
There are good people out there! People who can form Lasting Friendships and Lasting Relationships! Don't Let Love Hurt - Follow God's recommendations in I Corinthians 13.
There is Hope! Let go of the PAST HURT and start building again on Jesus - The Sure and Firm Foundation. Don't Let Love Hurt!